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Let’s Hear It For The Family!

Holy Family, St. Mary's Cathedral, Cheyenne, courtesy of Matt Potter

Holy Family, St. Mary’s Cathedral, Cheyenne, courtesy of Matt Potter

Today, the First Sunday of the Christmas Season, the Church celebrates the Holy Family.  The many depictions of the birth of Christ, surrounded by Mary and Joseph, and all the other members of the Christmas story tell us that all families find their true center and identity in Christ.

Hopefully, you are enjoying some time with family during this Christmas season.  I am blessed with the family that is entrusted to me as a bishop, the People of God of the Diocese of Cheyenne.  I always enjoy the Midnight Mass celebration in the Cathedral.  It is a great way to give thanks to God while at the same time praying with so many members of the faith family.

I am also  blessed with my own family.  This year, on Christmas day I flew home to spend time with my family in Southern Indiana.  Even though I only slept about three hours, sharing Christmas dinner with my family was worth the effort.

One thing that family life teaches us is that love is inconvenient.  Sure, there are great moments in every family, and these become the special memories recalled later in life.  There are many family moments of enjoying the love that binds a family together.  But, it is the love that surfaces and comes to the aid of one another in times of need and crisis that are truly the foundation of family life.  These are the moments when love is not easy, when love is inconvenient.

Every family knows those experiences when harsh words are spoken, and feelings are hurt.  There are times when someone is unintentionally overlooked.  For family life to go on and ‘get back on track’ someone needs to say “I am sorry,” and someone else needs to say “I forgive you.”  There are times when someone is sick or in trouble, and someone else needs to put their own plans on hold in order to serve the other.  These are the moments when love is inconvenient, when love is tested, when true love is proven.

In our families, are we willing to take our turn in serving the others?  Am I willing to surrender my own needs and plans in order to allow or help someone else do what they want to do or give them what they need?  Am I willing to ask for forgiveness when I hurt a member of the family, or willing to forgive them when they disappoint or hurt me?  Such is love.  Such is family life.

The reality of family life teaches us that love is demanding and rewarding.  This is why true family life keeps Christ at the center.

Christ teaches us that love is always willing to ‘go out’ of one’s self to encounter the other – to serve the other.  True love allows one to be inconvenienced by the needs of others.  True love is always willing to forgive, (over and over again) to heal, and to speak a comforting word.  True love accepts others for who they are, while always helping them to become better.  True love is willing to go where people are, and help them find their way home – to their true self – to their place at the family table, and ultimately, to our true home with our Father in heaven.

No family is perfect.  Every family has its challenges.  That’s why there is love.  That is why we need Christ, and why we welcome him into every home.  We give thanks that God chose to become a member of a human family.  We continue to welcome Jesus into our homes and our families.  This is where we learn to love.  The family is where we learn the demands and the rewards of love.

Let’s hear it for the family!


Generations & Generations; Give Thanks For Family

Today, the Church begins the Christmas story in the Gospel of Matthew. Incidentally, today is also the birthday of Pope Francis.  Happy Birthday, Holy Father!  The use of the O Antiphons begin with evening prayer this evening, as our Novena for Christmas begins.

Each day from now to Christmas, with each Gospel reading, we will draw nearer to the account of the birth of Jesus. Matthew begins his Gospel with a genealogy of Jesus, beginning with the Patriarch, Abraham.  Matthew calls Jesus the “son of David, the son of Abraham.” (1:1) because Jesus is the anointed one, the son of man and the son of God.

As we read this ancestry of Jesus, it becomes readily apparent that Jesus has quite a cast of characters in his background.  I don’t know about you, but this gives me great hope!  For me, today is a great opportunity to give thanks for my own family, and all of my ancestors.  In the person of Jesus, “all the tribes of the earth are blessed.” (Psalm 72)  This includes my family and each of yours.

My parents, Paul & Kay Etienne

My parents, Paul & Kay Etienne


Likewise, the psalmist prays that his (the Lord’s) name be blessed forever.  This is our task today, to bless the name of Jesus.  How fortunate I am to be a part of a family who has recognized our many blessings in Christ, and remain faithful in blessing his name.  I’m so grateful for being a part of God’s family, the family of Jesus.  I am also grateful for the human family that is such a blessing in my life.

If your family is at a difficult crossroads, know that there were such moments in the heritage of Jesus.  Know that each of our families have challenges.  It is especially in these moments that we are to invite the presence of God, who humbled himself to take on our human nature.  God is near.  God is always with us.  Let us welcome him once again into our hearts, our homes, and each of our families.



Rural Women: Invaluable and Irreplaceable

One of the greatest privileges of being a bishop in a rural diocese has been my ability to witness the incredible sacrifices people make to ensure their family, their farm, and their community thrive. Wyoming is a great and beautiful state, but there are many factors here—from harsh weather to the remoteness of rural areas—that present challenges to living in the countryside.

Hollywood suggests that “rugged individualism,” captured by someone who is strong, silent, and set apart, is the necessary characteristic for “making it” in the countryside.

But I’ve found that the opposite is true.

“Making it” in rural America takes a group effort, a willingness to sacrifice for the sake of another. The Second Vatican Council teaches us that, because we’re relational beings, one can fully discover his or her true self only in a sincere giving of him or herself. I see this self-giving throughout my diocese, and in a special way in our women.

Roxie Harris checks on this year's new calves.

Roxie Harris checks on this year’s new calves; Wheatland, Wyoming.

Take, for instance, Roxie Harris, a rancher from Wheatland, Wyo., whom I recently spoke with. While her husband works a full-time job away from the ranch to provide a needed income and insurance, Roxie keeps the ranch going. She told me that it’s hard work, but she does it because ranching offers a good lifestyle that they want to preserve. The natural cycle of life keeps Roxie and her husband close to God, and has provided a strong work ethic and solid values for their daughter.

Roxie is just one example of the many women in rural America who give tirelessly of themselves for the building up of society and their families. These women care for creation as well as the human family, and their gift of self has passed on the faith to many through the ages.

I think of the women who are wives, mothers, and sisters; religious and lay women who share so much love for the building up of the Church. They have cared for the home, raised children, taught the faith, supported their parishes, worked the farms and ranches, and shown the way for so many of us to grow in virtue and holiness.

The impact of such hard-working and loving women is perhaps felt most within the family. Pope Francis spoke of the origins and reality of such love during an impassioned address to the participants at the recent World Meeting of Families when he said that families united in love create “a society of goodness, of truth, and of beauty.

St. Pope John Paul II taught in his 1988 Apostolic Letter on the Dignity and Vocation of Women that “Christ’s attitude to women confirms and clarifies, in the Holy Spirit, the truth about the equality of man and woman. One must speak of an essential ‘equality,’ since both of them—the woman as much as the man—are created in the image and likeness of God. Both of them are equally capable of receiving the outpouring of divine truth and love in the Holy Spirit. Both receive his salvific and sanctifying ‘visits.’” (Mulieris Dignitatem #16)

While men and women are equal in dignity, we also know that they are distinct, and that human life is incomplete if it’s lacking one or the other. St. John Paul articulated a “feminine genius,” referring to the unique and distinctive characteristics that women possess as women. Part of the feminine genius is the ability of women to receive these sanctifying ‘visits’ that St. John Paul talks about; their openness to others, and their great capacity to share compassion, love, care and concern, be that for the gifts of creation or especially their love for God and their neighbor.

So thank you, rural women, for sharing your many gifts and for the invaluable and irreplaceable contribution you make to the Church, your families and your communities.

For more on this topic, check out the website for Catholic Rural Life.


Travels and Tales

Indiana Catholic Men's Conference
Indiana Catholic Men’s Conference

Last Friday I started a ten day road trip. I flew into Indianapolis, where I gave a talk and presided over Mass and a Holy Hour for the Indiana Catholic Men’s Conference. Well over 600 men gathered from around the state at the Indianapolis Convention Center.  It was good to see numerous former parishioners as well as men who are presently parishioners of my two brother priests in the Diocese of Evansville.  We celebrated Mass at St. John’s which is right across the street from the Convention Center.

It was quite inspiring to see so many men taking their faith seriously. It was also uplifting to have a full church filled with so many voices singing God’s praises.  Other presenters for the Conference were Dr. Edward Sri and Mr. Randy Hain.

The time in Indianapolis also provided opportunity to reconnect with a few friends, and to spend a Sunday with my sister, Sr. Nicolette, OSB.  We went for a hike in one of the state recreational areas, and enjoyed the beauty of what has been an exceptional season of fall colors.

Catholic Rural Life Board meeting
Catholic Rural Life Board meeting

From Indianapolis I flew to St. Paul, Minnesota for a couple days of board meetings with Catholic Rural Life.  One of the more enjoyable aspects of my episcopal ministry is serving as President of Catholic Rural Life and working with such a fine group of people.  For the past two years, we have worked hard on a joint venture with the Pontifical Council for Justice and Peace, writing a companion piece to their Vocation of the Business Leader.  Hopefully, by the end of this year, we will publish The Vocation of the Agricultural Leader.

Another exciting initiative is an effort to start an Institute on Agriculture and Environment.  At our June meeting, the Board approved initial efforts to establish an advisory board for the Institute, and at our November meeting, we received an update on their work, and approved further steps to define the structure and scope of the Institute.


Our time together concluded with a reception in downtown Minneapolis to develop our base of donors and spread the word about the great work and mission of Catholic rural Life.

Finally, while back in the Midwest, I am wrapping up my trip with a visit home to southern Indiana.  I took a few hours yesterday to visit one of our seminarians, Clark Lenz at nearby St. Meinrad Archabbey and Seminary.  We took a nice walk and had a very good visit.  I am very grateful for everyone of our seminarians, as well as for the great work of St. Meinrad in forming and preparing young men for service to the Church as priests.

IMG_0301Most of the leaves have fallen from the trees, and this incredibly extended fall season is now finally giving way to more seasonal temperatures.  I appreciate the opportunity to make a visit home to spend a little time with my parents and family.  My mother continues to decline in her battle with Alzheimer’s.  Pop is faithful and patient as he daily cares for mom, and my siblings are doing their best to drop in on a regular basis to provide support.  God has blessed our family in so many ways, and the love grown over the years now continues to bear fruit as our family heads into a new stage of family life.

May God continue to bless all of you and your families!




Today’s Homily From Pope Francis

In final preach of this pastoral visit to the United States, Pope Francis encourages us to be prophets of the joy of the Gospel; prophets of the family, of the love of the family, as disciples of Christ.

Today the word of God surprises us with powerful and thought-provoking images. Images which challenge us, but also stir our enthusiasm.

In the first reading, Joshua tells Moses that two members of the people are prophesying, speaking God’s word, without a mandate. In the Gospel, John tells Jesus that the disciples had stopped someone from casting out evil spirits in the name of Jesus. Here is the surprise: Moses and Jesus both rebuke those closest to them for being so narrow! Would that all could be prophets of God’s word! Would that everyone could work miracles in the Lord’s name!

Jesus encountered hostility from people who did not accept what he said and did. For them, his openness to the honest and sincere faith of many men and women who were not part of God’s chosen people seemed intolerable. The disciples, for their part, acted in good faith. But the temptation to be scandalized by the freedom of God, who sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous alike (Mt 5:45), bypassing bureaucracy, officialdom and inner circles, threatens the authenticity of faith. Hence it must be vigorously rejected.

Once we realize this, we can understand why Jesus’ words about causing “scandal” are so harsh. For Jesus, the truly “intolerable” scandal consists in everything that breaks down and destroys our trust in the working of the Spirit!

Our Father will not be outdone in generosity and he continues to scatter seeds. He scatters the seeds of his presence in our world, for “love consists in this, not that we have loved God but that he loved us” first (1 Jn 4:10). That love gives us a profound certainty: we are sought by God; he waits for us. It is this confidence which makes disciples encourage, support and nurture the good things happening all around them. God wants all his children to take part in the feast of the Gospel. Jesus says, “Do not hold back anything that is good, instead help it to grow!” To raise doubts about the working of the Spirit, to give the impression that it cannot take place in those who are not “part of our group”, who are not “like us”, is a dangerous temptation. Not only does it block conversion to the faith; it is a perversion of faith!

Faith opens a “window” to the presence and working of the Spirit. It shows us that, like happiness, holiness is always tied to little gestures. “Whoever gives you a cup of water in my name will not go unrewarded”, says Jesus (cf. Mk 9:41). These little gestures are those we learn at home, in the family; they get lost amid all the other things we do, yet they do make each day different. They are the quiet things done by mothers and grandmothers, by fathers and grandfathers, by children. They are little signs of tenderness, affection and compassion. Like the warm supper we look forward to at night, the early lunch awaiting someone who gets up early to go to work. Homely gestures. Like a blessing before we go to bed, or a hug after we return from a hard day’s work. Love is shown by little things, by attention to small daily signs which make us feel at home. Faith grows when it is lived and shaped by love. That is why our families, our homes, are true domestic churches. They are the right place for faith to become life, and life to become faith.

Jesus tells us not to hold back these little miracles. Instead, he wants us to encourage them, to spread them. He asks us to go through life, our everyday life, encouraging all these little signs of love as signs of his own living and active presence in our world.

So we might ask ourselves: How are we trying to live this way in our homes, in our societies? What kind of world do we want to leave to our children (cf. Laudato Si’, 160)? We cannot answer these questions alone, by ourselves. It is the Spirit who challenges us to respond as part of the great human family. Our common house can no longer tolerate sterile divisions. The urgent challenge of protecting our home includes the effort to bring the entire human family together in the pursuit of a sustainable and integral development, for we know that things can change (cf. ibid., 13). May our children find in us models and incentives to communion! May our children find in us men and women capable of joining others in bringing to full flower all the good seeds which the Father has sown!

Pointedly, yet affectionately, Jesus tells us: “If you, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” (Lk 11:13). How much wisdom there is in these few words! It is true that, as far as goodness and purity of heart are concerned, we human beings don’t have much to show! But Jesus knows that, where children are concerned, we are capable of boundless generosity. So he reassures us: if only we have faith, the Father will give us his Spirit.

We Christians, the Lord’s disciples, ask the families of the world to help us! How many of us are here at this celebration! This is itself something prophetic, a kind of miracle in today’s world. Would that we could all be prophets! Would that all of us could be open to miracles of love for the sake of all the families of the world, and thus overcome the scandal of a narrow, petty love, closed in on itself, impatient of others!

And how beautiful it would be if everywhere, even beyond our borders, we could appreciate and encourage this prophecy and this miracle! We renew our faith in the word of the Lord which invites faithful families to this openness. It invites all those who want to share the prophecy of the covenant of man and woman, which generates life and reveals God!

Anyone who wants to bring into this world a family which teaches children to be excited by every gesture aimed at overcoming evil – a family which shows that the Spirit is alive and at work – will encounter our gratitude and our appreciation. Whatever the family, people, region, or religion to which they belong!

May God grant to all of us, as the Lord’s disciples, the grace to be worthy of this purity of heart which is not scandalized by the Gospel!

September Institute On Marriage, Family And Vocations A Huge Success

For a change of pace this year’s September Institute was held in Laramie, rather than Casper.  Though attendance was down slightly this year from previous institutes, the energy and information were above par.  For a complete tour of the three day event, you may view pictures here, courtesy of our Stewardship and Development Director, Mr. Matt Potter.

MassThere are many benefits to gathering the clergy and pastoral leadership of the diocese, but I would like to reflect on just a few.  First of all, it serves as a great way to strengthen the bonds that unite us as pastoral leaders.  Institutes provide not only good information, but they also re-ignite the fire and passion of our mission to serve all of God’s people.  We are reminded that we are not in ministry alone, but that we serve with many others, and we have their emotional and spiritual support.  Mostly, we are reminded of the unity that we share in the Lord, Jesus Christ.  We have an opportunity to renew relationships and rediscover the ‘call’ of Christ who entrusts to each of us the work of building His Kingdom.

The prelude to the institute every year, at least for the bishop and others, is a round of meetings with Diocesan Pastoral Council, Presbyteral Council, Deans, who also serve as the Personnel Board, and a business meeting with all clergy.  This year also included a quick meeting with the College of Consultors.  The event is officially opened with Tuesday evening Mass.

We were particularly blessed and pleased to have his Eminence, Edwin Cardinal O’Brien join us.  He presided and preached at one of our Liturgies and gave the key note opening address on Tuesday night.  Since 2012, Cardinal O’Brien has served in Rome as the Grand Master of the Equestrian Order of the Holy Sepulchre of Jerusalem.

During my final years as a seminarian at the North American College in Rome, then Msgr. O’Brien was the rector of the College, thus my previous relationship with him, and my reason for inviting him to take on the role of Keynote Speaker for this year’s Institute.  He did not disappoint!

Cardinal O'Brien gives Keynote Address Tuesday Night in Laramie

Cardinal O’Brien gives Keynote Address Tuesday Night in Laramie

In his opening address, Cardinal O’Brien reviewed some of Pope Francis’ recent teaching on the family from his Wednesday General Audiences.  We were reminded of the central role of the family in the plan of God.  It is in the family that we learn to live with one another despite our differences.  That children have a right to grow up in a family with their biological mother and father.  The family is where basic relationships are formed, and we where learn how to live in relationship with others.

Today’s notion of freedom is distorted to the point that pursuit of a false sense of freedom is leading not to true freedom, but to material and spiritual devastation.  This is why it is so important that we help people rediscover the true dignity of the human person, and the dignity and sanctity of marriage and family.  The family is the nucleus of society.

Clergy and youth play hacky sack.

Clergy and youth play hacky sack.

The family is the domestic church where Jesus grows, in the lives of spouses, in the lives of children, and in the love of the nucleus of the family.  This is precisely why Pope Francis warns that the devil attacks the family.  He tries to destroy it to make sure there is no love there.  Prayer is the antidote.  One critical role of the parish is to bring families together.  This is precisely what we do every time we gather around the table of the Lord to celebrate the Eucharist.  The family is actually a microcosm of the parish family.  Parents today need the help of the faith community (the parish) to form their children in the faith.  Though the primary place of formation in the faith is the home, their is also a critical role the parish plays in this process.

Perhaps the most powerful moment of Cardinal O’Brien’s presentation was when he spoke of the magnetism of Jesus Christ.  His magnetic presence and personality was so attractive and compelling that people left everything else to be in his presence, and to learn from him.  Jesus is still in our midst today.  He still draws people to himself!  People still leave all else behind and follow him!  Jesus is indeed very near, and his mystery is very much at work in you and in me.

Mr. Roy Petitfils during one of Wednesday's presentations.

Mr. Roy Petitfils during one of Wednesday’s presentations.

On Wednesday, we were presented with a very dynamic presenter, who energetically gave us his all in four separate presentations.  Mr. Roy Petitfils, MS, LPC is from Lafayette, Louisiana, and is a counselor.  He has a powerful personal story, and is blessed with strong faith, and tremendous insight into the challenges individuals, couples and families are facing in today’s culture.  He shared a voluminous amount of information with our pastoral leaders in order to help us be more effective in accompanying our married couples and families, and helping them deal with the difficulties of their lives.

The point most driven home for me was just how the identity of family has changed in such a short period of time.  Ministering to today’s married couples and families is far more challenging that even I had allowed myself to truly believe.  Here are just a few modern day statistics that help us better understand the reality in which we preach the Gospel:

Only 7% of families today are so-called ‘traditional,’ meaning a husband and wife, neither married before, raising their own children.  45% of marriages today end in divorce; 67% of those spouses enter into other marriages, creating what is known as ‘blended families.’

The average couple today spends less than 10 minutes a day in uninterrupted communication.

34% of children today are being raised by single parents.

5- 10% of families are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual couples.  Estimates put the number somewhere around 1 million LGBT couples (about 60% are not married) raising 125,000 children.

2.4 million grandparents are raising 4.5 million children today.

The average young person today spends up to 8 hours a day ‘on screen.’  (TV, i-phone, etc.)  In reality, it is probably closer to 10 – 16 hours a day.  The average father spends 7 minutes a day with a child.

For this reality check, I am very grateful!  Much more similar information was presented, along with practical suggestions for how we enter into these new realities to build relationships and trust in order to help people deal with their pain and struggles.  At the same time, we are hopefully able to help them enter more fully into the life of faith and the life of the Church.

As a sound wrap-up, on Thursday morning, Fr. Kevin Barrett provided us with a beautiful theology and spirituality of family.  Fr. Barrett has spent the last 33 years of his life working with the Apostolate for Family Consecration.  His years of practice and ministry shown through by the power of his words.  It was a fitting conclusion to the information shared during the three day event.

+O'Brien +EtienneAt the heart of each day, we celebrate the Eucharist as a reminder that no matter all the good work we do, it is the grace of God that wins every battle.

These Liturgies are generally, and intentionally, very well-done, inspiring and uplifting.  We benefited greatly from the excellent music provided at each of our Liturgies.  I hope our pastoral leaders go home to further build a ‘sound’ liturgical music ministry in each of our parishes.

The preaching duties are shared at each Mass.  Fr. Steve Titus, Vocations Director, preached on Tuesday evening, Cardinal O’Brien presided and preached on Wednesday, and I had the honors for the final Mass Thursday morning.

To all of our families, please know you were front and center in all of our hearts and minds and prayers this week.  Please God, may our pastoral leaders be better equipped and motivated to enter into each of your lives in a manner that benefits you in your struggles, as well as raises you up in the Paschal Mystery and Life of the Risen Christ!








Labor Day and the Dignity of Human Work

Human LaborOn this Labor Day, we give thanks to God for the dignity of human labor.  Think of the many families that are supported through the labor of individuals.  I remember well the life my family had due to the hard work of my father, and of the loving care of our home and family by my mother.  We did not have a lot, and we did not take fancy vacations, but what we had were lots of good memories as a family.

Each of us children had our own chores to perform as well.  On Saturday’s, there was no TV until all of the house chores were done.  From an early age, we learned to take responsibility for the common good of the family and home, and that eventually led to other initiatives by which we began to earn a little of our own income.  By the time I reached high school, I was able to pay for some of my own clothes, as well as an old car and its upkeep.

It felt good to work, to do a good job, no matter what the task, and begin to build a good reputation.  These are just a few of the indicators of the dignity that is a part of human labor.  Work and family go hand-in-hand, as recently reflected in the annual Labor Day statement by the US Conference of Catholic Bishops.

Our Holy Father Pope Francis also spoke eloquently about the dignity of labor as a part of God’s plan for the human family:

Therefore, work too, like celebration, is part of God’s creative plan. In the Book of Genesis, the theme of the earth like a back yard, entrusted to the care and cultivation of man (2, 8:15), is anticipated by a very moving passage: “In the day that the Lord God made the earth and the heavens, when no plant of the field was yet in the earth and no herb of the field had yet sprung up — for the Lord God had not caused it to rain upon the earth, and there was no man to till the ground; but a mist went up from the earth and watered the whole face of the ground” (2:4-6). It’s not romanticism, it is God’s revelation; and we are responsible for understanding and implementing it. The Encyclical Laudato Si’, which proposes an integral ecology, also contains this message: the beauty of the earth and the dignity of work were made to be united. The two go together: the earth becomes beautiful when it is worked by man. When work is detached from God’s covenant with man and woman, and it is separated from its spiritual qualities, when work is held hostage by the logic of profit alone and human life is disregarded, the degradation of the soul contaminates everything: even the air, water, grass, food … the life of society is corrupted and the habitat breaks down. And the consequences fall most of all on the poor and on poor families. The modern organization of work sometimes shows a dangerous tendency to consider the family a burden, a weight, a liability for the productivity of labour. But let us ask ourselves: what productivity? And for whom? The so-called “smart city” is undoubtedly rich in services and organization; but, for example, it is often hostile to children and the elderly. At times those in charge are interested in managing individuals as a workforce, assembling and utilizing them or throwing them away on the basis of economic benefit. The family is a great workbench. When the organization of work holds it hostage, or even blocks its path, then we can be certain that human society has begun to work against itself! (Pope Francis, General Audience, August 19, 2015)

So, if you have the ability to work and support yourself and your family, give thanks to God.  Let us also keep in mind those who are without work; those families who struggle just to find a safe place to live.  If we are in a position to assist others who are in need, let us never fail to offer a helping hand, and especially in a manner that helps others maintain their basic human dignity.


The Diocese of Cheyenne Celebrates Today: Ordination of Andrew Kinstetter as Transitional Deacon

IMG_9738-LLast night as we began a Holy Hour, prior to the exposition of the Blessed Sacrament, Andrew Kinstetter made his Profession of Faith and Deacon Oath of Fidelity.  This ceremony is very simple, yet profoundly significant.

Today, this local Church gathered for Andrew’s ordination as a transitional deacon.  We are very grateful for Andrew’s generous response to God’s call to serve this Church as a deacon, and eventually, as a priest.

Below is my homily for the Ordination Mass.


Deacon Ordination of Andrew Kinstetter

Cathedral of St. Mary, Cheyenne, February 6, 2015

Today is a joyous occasion as this local Church of the Diocese of Cheyenne gathers to bestow the sacrament of Holy Orders upon Andrew Kinstetter. On behalf of our community of faith we welcome all of the family and friends of Andrew who have gathered here with us today.

Andrew, as you sit before us today, you come to a significant moment of life, and in particular, to a magnificent moment in your relationship with Jesus Christ and His Church. The Prophet Jeremiah speaks for you as he states so eloquently in the first reading: “The word of the Lord came to me: Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I dedicated you, a prophet to the nations I appointed you.” Such is the intimacy with God that belongs to everyone who opens their heart to the truth.

Every person is brought to life by the loving, creative hand of God. Every person is created for communion with God. As the Psalmist reminds us, we are called to friendship with God. And, as if creation and salvation history did not proclaim clearly enough God’s love and intimacy for every human person, God sent His Son Jesus Christ into the world to reveal that the love of God is indeed very intimate and very personal. And in the Gospel today, Christ himself calls us friends.

Andrew, you have come to discover this intimacy and love of God at work in your own life. By God’s grace, you have been blessed with loving parents, as well as the love of two brothers. Don and Janet, thank you for the manner in which you have manifested God’s love in the world through your married life and love, and through the sacrament of Holy Matrimony. To you along with Greg and Paul, I express the gratitude of this local Church for living the demands of love in family life. Thank you especially for sharing your son and brother with the Church. Today we see concretely that the family is the seedbed of vocations for the Church.

Andrew, beyond your family you have continued to hear Christ call to you: “Come, follow me.” He has been calling and leading you for some time, indeed throughout your life. And because of your openness of heart, Christ has led you to his heart. Within his heart you have discovered the fire of divine love. The warmth of this fire has been shared with you through the outpouring of the Holy Spirit, granted to you sacramentally in Baptism and Confirmation. This flame of love has provided you with light to guide you all the days of your life, and in your young years, this light revealed the desire of God’s heart; that you serve his people as a priest.

IMG_3274-MIn the Gospel today, Christ invites you and all of us to remain in his love. And where Christ extends an invitation, he offers the means by which we may accept it. This love of Christ which knows no bounds, he offered throughout his earthly life and ministry. He walked with his disciples and God’s holy people. He proclaimed the Kingdom of Heaven, healed the sick, forgave sins, fed the hungry, admonished the hard-hearted, consoled the grieving, gave hope to the downcast, cast out demons, raised the dead to life, and finally conquered death itself by his own death and resurrection.

This love of Christ which has no limits has come to you and nourished you through His Body and Blood through the Eucharist. This love of Christ which is the fullest expression of God’s mercy you have experienced and received through the sacrament of Reconciliation. Each time we drink and draw from these sacraments, we enter into the love of Christ, and thus accept his invitation: “Remain in my love.”

Remaining in the love of Christ is the sine qua non of the sacrament you request and receive today; the sacrament of Holy Orders. Remaining in the love of Christ is the only way to faithfully live this sacrament, for to truly live this gift of Holy Orders is to give your life as gift to others in the manner you have received the gift of God’s life, the gift of friendship with Christ. Today, the Lord bestows upon you the office of Deacon, which is above all a call to live as Christ for others, and to do so by serving Christ in all others. Your life, Andrew, is now to be a ministry of charity, a manifestation of the love of Christ.

As a Deacon, you are to be a man of good reputation and continue to grow in wisdom and the Holy Spirit. (Homily from Rite of Ordination of Deacons) Having made your public profession of faith last night, you are to continually grow in faith, and the very ministry entrusted to you today will test that faith at times, which is the primary means by which it will grow. By your life and through your preaching, you are to strengthen the faith of your brothers and sisters.

From this day forward, you are no longer one who simply hears God’s Word, for as a Deacon you are entrusted with the responsibility to proclaim the Word to others. The Master Craftsman sends you forth today as one of his engineers and architects. By word and example, you are now sent to teach others how to excavate the shifting sands of falsehood from their lives. Through your life and ministry of charity, you are sent to help others design meaningful lives built upon the solid foundation that is the truth of the Gospel. By your example and instruction, you are to lead others from darkness into light, walking with them in the journey of discovering the joy of a fully human life found by loving God and loving one’s neighbor.

Through the sacrament of Holy Orders, as a Deacon you become a close collaborator with me as your bishop, and with the priests of this diocese. You will join your brother deacons in presiding at public prayer, administrating Baptisms, assisting at and blessing Marriages, bringing Viaticum to the dying, conducting funeral rites and burying the dead. (Homily from Rite of Ordination of Deacons)

Joining the Order of Deacons also brings an obligation to pray for God’s People. More specifically, you promise to pray faithfully the Liturgy of the Hours, which is a prayer with, in and for the Church. In the Liturgy of the Hours, as a Deacon you will discover a unique manner of being in communion with all of God’s holy people. Here as in Eucharist, we discover and exercise a profound solidarity with the Body of Christ that is the People of God. This is the context in which you will exercise your ministry as a Deacon, the communion and the unity of this local portion of God’s people that is the Diocese of Cheyenne.

Andrew, today through the sacrament of Holy Orders, your own identity becomes more closely associated with Christ. This association with Christ is what has called you to this moment. Christ is now to be your sole source of strength and inspiration. He is now your sole possession. That you may remain in his love, Christ espouses you to himself. This espousal is manifest in a clear and fruitful way in the life of celibacy which you publicly promise to live.

Andrew, it is important that you be clear and honest about the promise and demands of celibacy. The promise is not just an appendage to Holy Orders. It is a call of Christ all by itself. Thus, you do not just embrace celibacy as a requirement of Holy Orders, but freely receive this call from Christ for what it is, an invitation to receive his sincere love. This love, as the love of every spouse, is his love freely and fully given to you, unconditionally. Your promise of celibacy in return is the same, a love freely and fully given to Christ. This celibate love is the source of a fruitful charity lived for God’s people, Christ’s bride, the Church. With regards to celibacy, guard against any confusion in your mind, and divisions in your heart. Now that Christ has embraced you with his love, never let him go!

IMG_3298-LYour own intimacy with Christ is to be nourished, as spouses must always be attentive to nourishing their love for each other. You will do this in a number of ways. Recognize that as you nourish this intimacy, Christ is nurturing his intimacy with you. First and foremost, we are strengthened in love and for love through the sacraments, especially the Eucharist. Never fail to call upon the grace of Holy Orders, which is always at work in God’s deacons, priests, and bishops.

Prayer is another fundamental life source of intimacy with the Lord. Beyond the Liturgy of Hours, spend time daily with Christ before the Blessed Sacrament. Joining to this sacred setting and time regular reading of the Sacred Scriptures, you will grow in spiritual maturity, just as your body matures in age.

Never forget, love is not just a matter of the heart, but a matter of exercise. Your intimacy with Christ is nourished in a powerful way when you recognize him in those you serve, and serve him in those you love. You are now to be Christ for others, as symbolized in the Good Samaritan who tended to the needs of the man beaten and robbed and left to die in the ditch. (Luke 10:25-37) At the same time, you are to discover Christ and serve him by touching the flesh and healing the wounds of humanity today.

The exercise of charity is both physical and spiritual. This exercise of charity requires us to walk with God’s people, to rise from our desk, and depart our chapels and offices and seek out the lost and the lonely. Our physical presence in the midst of the people brings a joy that is found only in living our life in relationship with and as a gift for others.

One final admonition, Andrew; the love of Christ is infinite and unconditional. We can never merit such love. Part of Christ’s invitation to ‘remain in my love’ will be regular invitations to expand love. As a Deacon, and later as a Priest, please, never draw boundaries or place limits upon your love, or your ministry. The fire of Christ’s love burns away such stinginess of heart.

This Bishop and this Church thank you for your “Yes” today. Know that God receives your “Yes” and will multiply it for the good of his people. May our Blessed Mother who was always “Yes” to God embrace and accompany you all the days of your charitable service through the gift of Holy Orders.


New Pastoral Letter: Generous Distributors of God’s Grace

Pastoral CoverAs 2015 begins, I wish each of you a very blessed new year!

After some final edits and formatting, my recent pastoral letter is now available on line (here) and will soon be mailed from the printers to every home in the Diocese of Cheyenne.  I pray you will take the time to read this letter, and more importantly, join us in carrying out these new priorities for our Diocese.

As we are making our resolutions for the new year, I hope a few of those resolutions involve renewing your relationship with Jesus Christ, through prayer, sacrament, and greater involvement in the life of the parish.  Another great resolution is to make more time for family.

This pastoral letter offers several suggestions for prayers, including a prayer for vocations, a prayer to be included with the recitation of the rosary, and the Angelus.  I strongly encourage as well each person learn when your local parish is offering a Holy Hour for Eucharistic Adoration, and that you spend some time in intimate prayer with the Lord.

May 2015 hold many blessings for each of you.  Together, let us hold each other in prayer, asking for the grace to grow in holiness as we strive to fulfill God’s will in each of our lives. Peace, +pde

Statement On Marriage in Wyoming

In light of Friday’s (Oct. 17, 2014) order by U.S. District Judge Scott W. Skavdahl that Wyoming’s state law banning same-sex unions is unconstitutional, I wish to offer a few thoughts.  (According to an AP story, the ruling is on hold until defendants have the chance to appeal.)

The Catholic Church teaches the dignity and sanctity of every human person. This belief is rooted in our understanding that every human person is created in the image and likeness of God. Every person is deserving of this respect, even those with same-sex attraction.

The Catholic Church also teaches that marriage is by nature a union of a man and a woman. It is perhaps the single oldest institution of society, and as such, the primary and natural starting point of family life. Marriage expresses, strengthens and protects the love of a man and a woman, and endures for their lifetime. Their love promotes harmony in their relationship, and generates new life in the children they bear and raise together. Marriage and the family it generates are unique bonds of love meant for the well-being of each of its members and the common good of society as a whole. This ‘unique bond of love’ cannot be replicated in any other fashion. A true understanding of the nature of marriage prohibits any institution, secular or religious, from redefining marriage.

As Church, we will continue to promote the understanding that marriage is a union of one man and one woman, a covenantal relationship instituted by God. We as Church will continue to teach this truth in all of its richness and encourage all people to embrace this truth. At the same time, we encourage respect for all persons and a respectful dialogue in discussing marriage and family in our culture today.

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